If you’re one of many Maryland parents who are preparing to file for divorce or have recently navigated the process, helping your children cope and move on in life is undoubtedly one of your highest priorities at this time. The good news is that children are highly adaptable and resilient, especially when they have the loving support of both parents in their lives.
There’s no question that divorce is stressful, and if you and your ex disagree about child-related issues, your stress level may skyrocket. It’s often possible, however, to keep stress to a minimum in your co-parent relationship. There are several things to keep in mind that may be helpful in your specific situation.
Keep children’s best interests in mind
When you decided to divorce, you no doubt understood that your decision was going to have a significant impact on your children’s lives. To help them adapt to a new lifestyle and to keep co-parent stress at bay, it’s best if you and your ex agree from the start to focus on what’s best for the kids in every situation.
A willingness on both your parts to compromise and cooperate as needed for the sake of your children goes a long way to avoiding angry outbursts or arguing over even the most minor issues regarding custody, child support or other family matters.
Appreciate one another as parents
You may not want to be married to your co-parent anymore; however, your future interactions may be a lot less stressful if you think of yourselves as a team and try to appreciate each other for the special roles you play in your children’s lives.
By focusing on the positive and separating co-parenting issues from any lingering bad feelings you might have about your former marriage, you can be proactive in creating a new lifestyle that helps everyone cope in as healthy and amicable a manner as possible.
Know where to seek support if there’s a problem
There are bound to be good days and bad days as you learn to function as a family in separate households. Whether you’re a custodial or non-custodial parent, your daily routines, customs and overall lifestyle are going to change.
You can alleviate stress by not hesitating to enlist guidance and support from friends, family, teachers, counselors or legal advocates if you encounter a co-parenting problem you don’t feel equipped to handle on your own.